Why am I open?

As I have mentioned before I am in an open relationship with Paul and this relationship is soon coming to an end, because he has found someone else.  The shift for him moving into another relationship with his new lady is going to be slow because he doesn’t want to put me into a situation where I will be alone.

So I guess with that being said, I am available.

When I take on a new relationship it is likely to still be an open relationship for the man, but not for me as I am settled in my mind that I just want to give whatever I can that relationship – however, I am still very playful by nature and bisexual so we’ll see how that will pan out, shall we?

Why do I want an open relationship?

Because in my mind they tend to be more honest relationships, as partners who tend to play around with your knowledge, are more honest about it to you.  I value honesty highly and don’t like surprises!

Also, I believe that the idea that a man should be monogamous is unnatural; it goes against the laws of nature and their base instincts; for a man should sow their seeds in as many females as they can to ensure his genes are successful, I know I lived under a rock up until recently and I know times are different now, but still.  An old fashioned belief I know, but that’s my belief. 

A female on the other hand need to think about stability for their children and keep to the protection of their one alpha male.

Feminists you have your opinions, let me keep mine.

Thank you for reading.

My views on Mr Perfect (not the wrestler)

I have mentioned before and I will probably say it again, I am not like other women, I don’t go in for too many romance scenes and weak female roles in my stories.  Yes, there are some love scenes in a handful of my works, but generally it isn’t all googly eyes and sweet nothings, it is usually love in a deeper sense or some kind of strange dynamic and understanding between the two in question.

I have never been a romantic person and in my own relationships I tend to fall into a sexual relationship with those who I have a deep friendship and connection with, because we understand each other and accept each other.  I don’t go around chasing for the perfect man in the perfect scenario and drive myself crazy with how perfect everything must be!

I don’t believe in chemistry in the usual sense of the word, I believe in mutual respect and understanding and a close friendship where you can be completely open and honest with each other – if you don’t have that, I really don’t understand why people waste their time bothering with each other, because the relationship is likely to fail eventually without those things!

That’s just me I suppose, I know my ideas about relationships are not popular ones, especially as I am so open about being bisexual and involved in an open/polyandrous/polygamous relationship.

I have never been a person who chases trends and normality, I am very bohemian in my ways and I truly believe the spice of life is variety.  Yes, I know, I have said it before – my stories have taboo themes in them, now you are beginning to get the picture – but those scenes are reserved for my adult audience pseudonym.

I have this belief where nature never intended for any creature to be monogamous, so why do we cut ourselves up emotionally when we try to enforce an unnatural law onto ourselves?

It doesn’t make us any better than the other animals in the world – it just makes us more stressed out and unproductive – literally!

Life is too short to be picky and waiting around for Mr. Perfect, life is too boring not to take advantage of the fun that is out there!

In my experience the more open and honest you are about your most deepest desires in life and talk about them without shame, the more likely you are to find your tribe, which think like you, the more likely you are to find your peace and your true love.  Just because I am in an open relationship doesn’t mean I value any less the people I am involved in, it just means I do not burden them all the time with making them my one and only.  That can be stressful on your lover, to make them feel that they are the only one for you, it is a big responsibility to live up to and it can put a strain on your relationship in itself.  Best to spread yourself around a bit, as long as you are open about it to everyone you are in a relationship with… don’t want heartaches and jealousy do we?  Be open!

That’s my two cents on the matter.

Happy reading!

problem with monogamy

The cupids are arguing about the matters of my heart

Who shall I fall in love with? Where should I start?

There’s many a potential lover for me, all are nice as nice can be

It’s a sweet shop for me right now, who should I choose? Or should I continue to prowl?

I love each of my dears almost equally, my heart’s been unlocked, and they’ve all got a key

Maybe monogamy isn’t my way, should I have them all and risk some will stray?

I need their love and I need their care, I need to know they’ll always be there

But I fear they will leave me, get bored with the wait

As I sit back and wonder who’s a mistake?