Vitriolic to the quiet
Awful to the modest
Never ceasing criticisms
You live your life in vanity
Vitriolic to the quiet
Awful to the modest
Never ceasing criticisms
You live your life in vanity
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It may have been a long remission between Easter and last week, because for the past few days I have been sleeping a lot and finding things a little difficult again.
My immune system has taken a massive hit and I feel like I have influenza but there is no temperature and not much else of the normal flu like symptoms. The brain fog is coming back, the depression is hitting hard again and then the washing machine breaks down two days ago and it needs replacing.
The asthma has got a bit worse too, but it’s the feeling that I am turning into stone or lead I can’t get over – every limb feels weighted.
Very sleepy is not a good description really – I kind of feel like I am going into a hibernation period, if you get my drift? But what is weird about that is the fact that I can’t seem to sleep at night.
My appetite has stayed much the same, not eating much at all, so the idea of gaining weight over Christmas is silly as I seem to be losing up to two pounds a week still or not moving on the scales at all.
I found a local gym for £8.75 a week membership, I can afford that with my personal allowance and I will be signing up for the membership around the end of January, to help me tone up – my upper arms in particular as they are the only things which don’t seem to be doing what the rest of my body is doing… losing inches and toning up. They are a good gym to go to because they specialise in helping people who have long-term health problems or are morbidly obese, which I need because I have asthma and a couple of auto-immune problems, one of which is rheumatic arthritis.
It’s exciting to note that I have lost ninety six pounds over a year now without much effort, now let’s take it up a huge notch! I am not that far off from my goal weight and with this gym membership I should reach my goal weight before July with any luck – at least I haven’t been on the morbidly obese scale for a while now- In fact I remember a time where I was a horrifying 56 on the BMI scale that was nearly two years ago! No, this wasn’t the reason I was bedbound either, the bedbound came first and this kind of obesity was caused by that!
How did I manage that?
I was a highly active person who walked an average of nine miles a day amongst lots of other exercises and physical activities, needing to eat an average of four thousand calories a day just to sustain myself or collapse – to becoming a severely ill and bedbound person literally overnight, but never readjusted my diet, until three years later when it dawned on me what the heck I was doing!
I had such spleen pain and constant chest infections for nearly eight years solid, the amount of times I was diagnosed with pneumonia too, I couldn’t move because the spleen was too swollen and I was literally advised to do nothing in case it ruptured! NHS overstretched before covid even existed and so operating wasn’t an option given to me!
Especially as I was eating my feelings when the depression stepped in, meaning I was over doing food on a massive scale for someone who was extremely sedentary!
It wasn’t until around three years ago that I realised when I am having an angry or a depressing day, I go to food again for comfort, I realised this is a base instinct we all have; why? Because as animals we would take our anger and frustrations out on other animals and bite them and attack them, but as humans have learned to civilise ourselves somewhat we suppress our anger and food is the substitute for the primordial release for biting!
So when you feel depressed, sad or angry get yourself chewing gum – believe me, it works – only I find it hard to have gum these days because most of it contains soy and soy is really bad for my spleen issue.
Around four years ago was the time I had a completely free from diet, no eggs, no gluten, no lactose, no soy and a mostly paleo diet. This helped a lot with the breathing problems and the swollen spleen, eventually I learned that I could eat almost anything without pain but there was something still off – occasionally my spleen would swell again and it took until earlier this year to find out what was doing it… mustard and soy.
Now I am not on a free from diet anymore, but I have to avoid soy and mustard, or the spleen swells up again and my asthma has a bad day – unfortunately most of my favourite foods contain them, as I especially love mustard! So suffering is a choice now – which I don’t choose often!
Not a lot of people who are recently acquainted with me take me seriously about how much I understand nutrition and exercise since they’ve always known me to be this size. But in actuality, I am really switched on, because I used to be very athletic and I can name in approximation the calorie worth and nutritional value of most foods.
But for some people they can’t understand that if you know all of this, then why did you allow yourself to get so fat?
Because if you live a certain lifestyle for too long, then you become ill where the physical aspect changes but not the food – you can see how this is easily done. But people will be people and some people are morons and don’t use their head on this kind of stuff!
I remember a time where my doctor suggested my diet was too healthy, too low on salt, too low on fats and too low on calories, that I was blacking out three times a week on average and going into severe full bodied cramps. Because of lack of electrolytes as I didn’t add salt to anything and I had a low fat diet which was mostly vegetable based. I remember having to keep a food diary constantly and keep every nutrient in mind and I remember having to rush out to McDonalds at random times throughout the week to get the high fat, high salt and calorific food I needed because I didn’t have time or the wherewithal to eat a large meal, so I had to opt for big macs as a dietary supplement. A weird contrast to my life now!
No, I do not miss it, because I didn’t enjoy having to do those things – what I do miss is the health and fitness I used to have and the energy I had as well as the body.
In the future, I am hoping to get all that back again, only this time I am going to be smarter, no big mac supplements anymore – I have a weight lifting professional friend who had the same problem, only she supplements the low salt problem not with crisps and salted fries or peanuts, like I did – but as adding rehydration salts to every bottle of water she drinks!
At the time I knew I was a protein type metabolism but I didn’t fully understand it as much as I do now and I never knew you could get really nice protein drinks to get what you need in per day. I was literally trying to stuff down copious amounts of chicken and fish every day into my system – another thing which will change in the future.
You see, back in the good old days of when I was active, I was active alone and without a fitness network, so I was literally clueless and often had stomach ache and a bulimic reaction to the food I needed to eat.
You live, you learn.
Paul and I are still living together but we are separated, still he is trying to support me the best he can with the diet I need. He has told me that our finances are better than we used to have as we are now being supplemented now he is retired, which means I can see the doctor more often and the diet can improve slightly.
In March my own personal finances will have doubled for me, which means I could also supplement myself too – so I should be losing the weight much faster soon. I will get back on it all after Christmas, properly.
Calorie, protein and nutritional monitoring that is, as well as signing up for the local gym classes!
My self-employment should be kicking off around March too, so hopefully I will earn enough to consider moving out of Paul’s by the end of summer, maybe – who know? I can’t see me living alone to be honest, but there you go!
I don’t do New Years resolutions, so please don’t take all of this as that!
My second biggest dream right now is to rediscover my inner pride and vanity!
When I was healthy and fit, there were a lot of people who said all I needed to do was dye my hair blond and get a Chihuahua and I’d be like Paris Hilton in my style! I was offended, because what’s wrong with a brunette? Though I like the idea of platinum hair!
Though maybe they were just on about how much I love pink and fluffies?
My first biggest ever dream I’ve had forever now, is to find someone who genuinely loves me and wants to keep me, build a family with me, push me to be the best that I can be and we motivate each other like live in life coaches! Along with this the person has to tolerate that I can be suffocating with how I love them and hands on with them, because I am just like that! I am like Elmira from Looney Tunes – but they also have to tolerate eccentricities, daydreams and creative pursuits as it’s all a huge part of who I am! Please also, the person must understand I am very childish – I am overly playful and I am not too responsible really. I am such a hedonist to be honest!
My third ever dream is not what you think it is either… nope… no, it’s not really anything to do with my stories or art – it’s having a great home and social life.
The stories becoming movies is really a fourth dream… shock horror… I know!
I kind of kept that a secret as I kind of wore this with shame for a while – but I am starting to release the true me and I have to be honest with you as much as myself now, don’t I?
I feel bad admitting that actually.
I am still writing, don’t fret! I am just not all that bothered in giving boring details about word count anymore, because nobody really cares enough to comment unless they are a troll who moans about how often I update word counts!
But meh – I always lacked structure anyway, I say I intend to write one novel but I end up writing a little towards twenty and so…. I am learning to become at peace with me and the way I am… so should you!
But project AD and the Easter project are the main focuses for me right now, even if I only write about twice a week on both of them – at least its progress! You have to remember I have lots of other projects on the go too!
I know lots of people are eager to get their hands on project AD and this is why I am writing this as fast as I can, because I know there are a lot of people in waiting over it.
I just got to get it out there anyway, because it’s a great story and I am very excited for it. I am seeing merchandise in my head already; it will be a great new toy brand in my opinion as it is a dystopian comedy for kids.
But the Easter project is also gripping me a lot too with so many amazing ideas I am literally bursting to share them with someone but scared I’d shoot myself in the foot if I did!
So that’s what’s happening in my life right now.
Thanks for reading!
My weird contrasts are even astounding to me.
On the one hand, I am a hippy nature’s child running bare foot in the garden catching frogs, collecting snail shells and taking home pretty pebbles and rocks from the woodlands on my walks and making leaf nests and mud pies with children; then on the other hand I am spellbound by shinies, fluffies, heady scents and glamour!
Since I was very small I have struggled with who I want to be – which one do I want to be… sugar and spice and all things nice Elizabeth Taylor… or up to my knees in mud with autumn leaves in my hair in dungarees Elle Mae Clampett?
All my life I have had people say to me unless I can make that decision, people will always think I have a split personality and mental problems and nobody is going to take me seriously either way! I have to make a decision… I never could.
As I am getting older I am trying to define myself and narrow myself down, but these two basic personalities in me just can’t be cut away…
They are both too prominent, but I have to say Sugar and Spice is more neglected than the Natures child in me, because I never had anyone teach me how to wear makeup and style the hair appropriately. I know how to spruce myself up nice when I need to, but I tend not to wear makeup unless I get offered one of those free make overs at a cosmetics store, which I used to go to often when I was on the dating scene.
So there are a few people in the world who doesn’t know that side of me.
I have to admit, that side of me is filled with guilt and shame, because nobody likes a vain person – nobody likes a show off! Well not in the circles I’ve ran in.
I used to tell people, I don’t do it to show off, I do it to feel nice and happy in myself – but the kind of people I knew didn’t think I was telling the truth, they thought that I thought I was better than them! I never did and never do – because quite personally, I think I am hideous!
The only thing that is ever going to change my mind about how pretty I am or not, is being on the front page of a big fashion magazine without any criticism headlined and that’s probably never going to happen!
Out of all the major Hollywood stars I saw on TV and in magazines growing up, the one that impressed me the most with her regality and beauty was Elizabeth Taylor and every Christmas on my present wish list is always at least one perfume from her brand, which I tend to get!
I look at stars today on TV and I wonder what has happened? What has happened to the traditional glamourous woman? There are less than ten major celebrity women that impress me these days and the one that impresses me the most is Lady Gaga, as she knows what real traditional glamour is!
Paul used to say I scare him, because when I become an author he is sure I’d be a best-seller and he is sure I am going to need to be like Roseanne Barr, where I have to buy a house just to store my clothes!
Does he actually know how little authors get?
I don’t think I will be that excessive, but I can see myself having good quality evening wear where they may need to be stored in a preserving way, like museum pieces.
But despite how much I love glitz and glamour, I find it morally difficult to justify the expense and this is where I have a lot of inner conflict!
I have a tremendous guilt conscience about money and being thought of as better than someone else – because it’s not me… I am nice, I don’t brag, I hate hurting people’s feelings, I genuinely care for people who I think are less fortunate and it hurts me to think that they often think so little of me in return.
Because I have never always been this poor, I have said it in the past and it is true!
My grandmother comes from traditional aristocratic stock, she never liked how much I love costume jewellery, because to her, it is cheap tack – but to me, I liked how they shine and look – to me it’s not the cost it’s the look!
She never under understood that for me it is aesthetic not saleability when family falls on hard times!
She always said when you get the money, buy lots of high value gold and keep it in store as you never know when you will need it for a hard time!
I collected a lot of junk in her opinion over the years and many of which I gave away to charity about four or five years ago as I felt I will never be well enough to ever spruce myself up again. In fact, up until late last year, I really thought I’d be dead by 45 as I was getting sicker.
But I am getting a little better, though I am going through a health blip right now with a chest infection – it’s not as bad as it used to be!
I started talking about this subject because I found something I thought I had thrown away a long time ago, it was hiding in the back of a rarely opened drawer – a massive fake diamond ring, made of plastic but it’s on a cheap silver base and I mean it is massive! It’s larger than a postage stamp.
I wore it today and I felt very nostalgic and kind of sad.
I looked in the mirror whilst wearing it and that was a big mistake… instant fallen from grace feeling – I don’t often eat my feelings unless I am angry, as I am an angry eater… but today I ate my feelings of sadness with a mince pie and felt instant regret and shame.
Tried to cheer myself up with “Well it is Christmas”!
Didn’t work, sat my buns down on the bed, typing this up and hoping this time next year, I’d had reached my weight goal and I had reached my self-employment goal and I would feel a little like the old me again!
But who knows, maybe I’d have pulled my finger out and got a best-seller and got this weird 100k deal Paul imagines I’ll get!
Lol, yeah right…
So why do I hate talking about this sort of thing? Because I have lived a very good life in the past and when people know you have money, the vultures come out or the people who hate you and guilt trip you into their sad stories or force you to believe that it is your duty as a wealthy person to donate 75% of your money!
Not a lot of people will actually listen to well off people, about discrimination – because they sarcastically say “aw yeah, poor little rich girl”, so I have been made to feel ashamed of having better and it is hard not to feel guilt when talking about these things! Especially since a lot of my former social circles have abandoned me and I am quite literally alone in the world, without people who understands me and my side of the coin!
But in my experience, aristocrats and the wealthy are more discriminated than other types of people, but we can’t voice it, because nobody can believe we have a hard life too and most think, we deserve the shit we get! But it’s all just spiteful jealousy.
Well I am like you now… good laugh isn’t it, bet you feel great about it, one less rich bitch to worry about?
It’s hard not to be bitter about this sort of thing!
Thanks for reading!
What animals are in my soul according to how I see it… what quirks and personality traits do those animals have that I see in myself?
This is my honest opinion about who I am, in my animalistic side.
My strongest personality I believe is the spirit of the dog or the wolf, which I believe are the same animal really!
I consider myself very friendly and easily excitable around my favourite people, people I trust and the better I know somebody the more playful I tend to become. I am also very emotionally insecure and always out to get affection of some kind or another, or give affection and be amongst my pack in general.
I am a pack animal who is outcast as it were, right now – I am without a pack and it is killing me inside, it really is!
I mean it when I say I am excitable around my favourite people! I exuberate the energy of “oh my goodness, you’re great, you’re this and that, I love you, come here, give a hug, who hurt who? Let me at them”! It’s quite funny to see me at times…
Yes I am needy I suppose, no shame in that I guess?
I want to be everyone’s friend but the world seems to fight back against people like me, fiercely it would seem!
I can easily adopt people if they are nice to me, it’s my nature but also like a dog or a wolf I don’t forgive others who bite or bark at me if they’ve been too fierce! But boy can I be a bitch (pun intended) if you hurt the ones I love and who mean a lot to me!
Like a dog, I can easily feel shame and guilt about the slightest thing, rolling over trying to win back the favour of those I have disappointed if I love them, like some attention seeking hussy!
The other animal I am like is a squirrel – in the right places I tend to have a lot of excess energy and excitement, a bit like a hyperactive dog – but it can be more extreme. Like a squirrel I love nuts, to eat them but also I like nuts as in people who are considered oddballs of society or Bohemian.
Like a squirrel I am a bit of an airhead and can forget a lot of things, because I store away knowledge and items all the time and what’s worse, I move them around in case other people borrow them a lot, so sometimes those items can be lost to me… forever… so it would seem!
Also squirrels plant trees, I plant trees too, lots of trees, I like trees.
Give me caffeine or candy or a combination of them both I start talking like a horse racing commentator and speed walk everywhere at high energy for several hours, laughing my head off!
And like a squirrel I can often freak out about things, like the worry wart I am! When I am stressed or worried, I talk so fast and so high pitched that people just stare at me wide eyed and think rightfully so… “What the fuck”?
Paul has got into the habit of grabbing me by the shoulders after I’ve told him things and then looks at me calmly and says to me…. “Breath, now tell me again… SLOWLY”!
So sometimes I start off again at the same speed and he patiently says “tut tut tut, slowly and focus”… to see us together like this makes you think I am demented or something, but sometimes even I feel I might be at times!
It’s more fun when I have had caffeine and candy and I am worried or have been recently affronted by something… its full steam ahead then, won’t get sense out of me for hours!
An ex of mine had the right idea when I get like that – just snog my brains out and I calm down and become passive almost immediately and then I manage to talk like I have actually got a brain instead of a hamster on a wheel in my head!
Another animal I am like is self-explanatory – rabbits. You must know me enough by now to know what I am on about here! The innuendo of what rabbits representation to society is enough for your imagination – but it is also one of the major things which boost my energy!
I am definitely an energiser bunny!
You can also see the rabbit in me when I garden as I often like to kneel on the ground and dig deep holes like I am making a warren… I don’t do it aimlessly, I am not insane! There is always a purpose for the hole, such as a plant.
I lied. I am insane, don’t you believe otherwise!
A cow is another animal, I am very nurturing by nature and I tend to graze rather than eat meals, because my body struggles with volume these days, a sandwich is a huge meal to me of late.
If we had the budget my diet would be reminiscent of my grandma’s advice, 7 small meals a day, no bigger than a tea plate (sandwich plate), because volume is an issue!
I remember I thrived when I lived her, it meant of course I seem to constantly eat – but I was thinner for it and I never had stomach ache!
Like the dogs, cows like to go around in herds or packs and I do miss having people in my life.
I miss having a nurturing role, Paul has made my ability as a mother almost obsolete since I’ve become ill, he has taken over everything and there is a huge power struggle for me to become an active mother again with Henry!
I can’t even nurture this family in other ways, such as baking or cooking because of finances but also because Paul has kept the kitchen in a manner that things I need are out of access for me or the kitchen is in such a mess that it takes me three hours of cleaning before I am happy to do anything in there! It’s not as simple as pop into the kitchen to make a tuna sandwich, because the tuna is in a section of the cupboard I can’t reach because of a mound of boxes in the way and Paul is much taller than I am – I am 5ft 8 and still struggle to get things!
Even on tippy toes I can’t reach the highest shelves of a cupboard and that’s where most of the snacks are stored, so Henry doesn’t binge behind our backs, but it also means I am heavily reliant on Paul to reach them for me as he has forbidden me to use the step ladder, due to my vertigo issues. I don’t have a fear of height; I have vertigo because of ear damage. I am fine using them, but he is over protective.
Like a cow, I like to be around children as much as possible and I love to mingle with others in nature.
Another creature I am like is a peacock, though it strongly depends on who I am around. I am heavily influenced by other people who are in my life the most. If I am around people where image doesn’t matter, I fall on the wayside with them and don’t make an effort because it’s never noted or appreciated when I do.
I absolutely adore people who are vain, narcissistic or believe that image is everything… they are my kind of people; they are the kinds of people who keep me to my standards! But I don’t like the ones who make things too personal. Yes, nag me to take care of myself, my hair, and my fashion, give me tips and advice, but don’t go getting personal about weight and things I can’t change like nose shape and eye shape etc.
I know I am overweight, I am working on it, I don’t need to be told, I am already deeply ashamed about that aspect about me without being reminded or judged for it!
There is nothing I can do about my nose and eyes other than surgery and I don’t want to be the Bride of Frankenstein, no offence. Though I do need surgery on my nose, because I have broken cartilage that has never healed, but it’s not aesthetic.
Also I don’t like the ones who think there is something I can do about my big scars. Yes I know make up works wonders, but some of my scars go into my hairline and messes my hair up if I use cosmetics in those areas!
Always be kind in your advice, never vitriolic.
I love glamour, but I am not well versed in using make up – I never had a feminine influence who taught me things like that. It’s something I need to learn!
Like my mother never made a point about hygiene, I learned from other people who took care of me over the years.
I remember when I had my first menses as a child, I was unusually early, 8yrs old – my mother gave me sanitary towels but never told me how to use them and for the first few months I wore them with the glue attached to my vagina and not the underwear – when I got my first hairs I learned I had been doing it wrong, because I complained to her about it one day and she called me a fool!
But anyway, I love fashion and I like to stand out a little. But I do love my baggy comforts and rough and ready looks in dungarees and what not on a day to day basis. But generally, I love to play with my looks whenever possible because I am a suppressed attention whore, I know I love attention if I can get it and showing off my latest outfits is one way to get attention!
I know when I was a lot younger I was very much the “notice me, notice me” type – but I got beaten pretty badly off my pedestal over the years.
I refuse to believe that as I get older my ability to be a peacock is less and less obtainable, I mean just look at some of the classic stars in Hollywood still bombing around at their best at ninety!
There’s life in the old dog yet, lol what am I saying? I am only forty!
Growing up I loved the egotistical and I have a playlist called “Vanity” where I have all sorts of songs on it, one of them happens to be the theme tune “Sexy boy” from the wrestler Shawn Michaels – “eat your heart out girls, hands off the merchandise”! I had Shawn Michaels as a pin up in my bedroom but the bigger poster I had was his quote rather than him “IMAGE IS EVERYTHING”!
Gosh, if I hadn’t of been brutalised, what would I have been like right now as a person?
Though I say all this, yet I am nothing like how I want to be right now – I am a shocking mess, enough to make the true inner me heave whenever I look in the mirror. But I do feel – why bother when nobody cares and you’re just spending money on your looks that you can’t afford?
I spruce myself up occasionally but it doesn’t get a reaction from anyone around here, not even Paul.
I am embarrassed to say, my depression got so bad in 2016 I found it hard to get the motivation to do basic things like brush my hair etc. around the house – I wasn’t going out as I was bedbound and so often times I didn’t bother. It made me go around the twist a bit and I think I went stir crazy, because one day I woke up and decided to literally buzz cut my hair clean off!
With the alopecia I have, I am near wanting to do that again, but scared I’ll regret it, especially as my hair is long now and it’s becoming a pacifier for me to brush my hair through with my fingers when I feel insecure.
I think I am also like a snake – it hurts to admit this, because my mother used to call me that a lot when I was growing up and made me feel guilt, shame and disgust for it.
Why do I think I am like a snake?
Because when someone hurts me, I am quieter than I used to be – I am more observant and I tend to strike at their weakest moment and strike hard!
I think I am a snake because like a snake I sit in the grass watching my attackers, seeing what they are doing to me or trying to do to me and I am calculating… calculating their next move, then WHAM! I find out their weakness and it’s not pretty.
I have always been the quiet observer – as my auntie always said “you’ve got to watch the quiet ones”, she kept warning people not to push me too far as I am one they’ve got to be more careful of!
A snake isn’t untrustworthy; it’s a misunderstood creature because it has a superior intelligence for survival, which is unique in the world. Because they do strike when you least expect it, because you never respected the snake, you underestimated it – you thought it was small and helpless and an easy touch – but the snake will always show you!
If someone criticises me and I give a small strained smile and go quiet, just understand, you’ve hurt me more than you think. I tend not to be vocal about my hurt feelings too much with people I hardly know.
But also that same smile can be confusing I guess – because it is the same smile I have when I feel anxious or not very confident.
I am also like an elephant… I never forget – I forgive sometimes – but I never forget and I will always make sure you never forget either, if you’ve ever hurt me!
I am also big and a klutz and I survive with my hearing loss because I rely on vibrations, like elephants do! I also don’t know my own strength, I am unusually strong really.
I mean, before I got sick I could carry a two hundred a fifty pound man over my shoulder!
I used to have big aspirations as a glamazon strength contest woman, this was a thing in the early 2000s in the UK – like the strongest women in the world contest but they were also glamour pusses too! Not all of them had grotesquely huge muscles; some looked like normal women, but could bench press three hundred or more pounds.
I got out of that ambition when I was 21 because men found it a turn off.
I still kind of dream about doing something similar again, like I used to dream about being a gladiator or a contestant on that show or a female professional wrestler, yes, these are genuine past ambitions I once had!
I loved fitness a lot and it is something I really want to get back into again in a big way – but again, without other like-minded folk in my life, it’s hard to motivate myself!
I like to think that I could get fit enough again where I could potentially do those things in the future and maybe go on the new show Apocalypse Wow too!
But I can be a bit rough with people and I have been known to break the stems of wine glasses by holding them too tight – really I sometimes wonder if I am half orc or something!
I look big and muscular whether overweight or not and people are often shocked when they hear me talk when I feel anxious or shy, because… yeah… my voice doesn’t match my physique and no… I do not have an annoyingly high pitched voice… I have a really strange calm, soothing voice by all accounts that sounds slightly young, but it’s not high pitched unless I am excited or angry.
The closest British actress I can think of that has a voice similar to me is Camille Codari, she is definitely a close sound alike – Americans will probably know her from the John Goodman and Peter O’Toole movie King Ralph! But also Jackie Tyler from Dr Who; I can be a sociopath at times and put on voices depending on the situation, I am self-conscious of my childish common natural voice, so I do try and suppress it a lot.
My grandma did a lot of elocution lessons on me as I was growing up and so I do know how to talk more mature and aristocratic when I need to and keep it up for quite some time! It was an essential survival tactic I needed as I was growing up in mixed religious and class cultures.
I can put on a voice that does suit my looks but it is the kind of voice that gets you noticed in public and I don’t like that – it’s a rough and ready school ma’am type of voice, that sounds like I won’t have any funny business! Lol! That voice can sound reminiscent of Pam Ferris or Martita Hunt, scary contrast if you ask me!
But there you go me in animal form.
Would you like to see my shadow?
My shadow self, I mean.
Do you even know what I am talking about?
Well, a shadow self is the dark side of you – the personality traits and habits you have that you are not proud of having and try to repress, the things you feel shame about, the things you fight hard against. For many people its things like anger, sadness, rage, jealousy and cruelty and habits like addiction, self-harming and so forth.
So, do you want to see my shadow? Or at least the bits I am willing to share about it?
If not, then tough – because this is what this post is about, my shadow self!
A lot of the shame aspect of my shadow isn’t so much my real feelings about them, but the kinds of feelings I was beaten into believing is shameful about them – brainwashed brutally by others to supress about myself.
Some things about my shadow self, I am actually rather proud of and I want to bring it out into the open a lot more. But because I was brutalised into shame for those things, I can’t help but burn up all over whenever I dare think about being that person!
When I was a lot younger, I am talking adolescent age; I took up smoking for a few weeks until I developed a bad chest infection.
It is one of my hidden fetishes as I found smoking sexy in some ways and still do; even though it’s not sexy at all really… it’s dangerous for the health. But I am definitely someone who finds certain styles of smokers pleasing to look at. This is one of the things I feel shame about, because it’s a selfish act – I am not thinking of the smoker’s health here, just my own lust at the aesthetic of at looking at them.
I took up smoking because I wanted to be that sexy smoker with the cigarette extension at posh parties, but my chest couldn’t take it, so it soon stopped!
I won’t go back into it again and my own guilty conscience could never use anyone for that aesthetic, as I really do care about people I love.
Although I am a very open person and I have lived with polygamists and been involved with open relationships, I am a jealous person – if I know I am not getting the quality of attention and care I desire; if neglected too long I can be positively vicious or over enthusiastic, depends on the person and what happened between us.
I admit I can be a vengeful person, but I tend to decline from violence whenever possible because I have a problem that can’t be managed well, when in a violent situation. I am afraid to admit that I have been physically brutalised so much in my life, I have the same traumatic response as a war veteran.
If violence is not easily avoided, I zone out, go red and attack back to the extent I can’t relay what I did to the person, other people have to tell me. It’s like I go into a trance or something. This is why, if I feel a violent situation is going too far I have to do the so-called cowardly thing and walk away! It’s a huge part of the PTSD I have.
I know it sounds counterproductive, but this is where another fetish of mine comes in useful – I have been involved deeply in the BDSM lifestyle as both sub and dominant. I prefer sub when I am in a relationship where I completely love and respect the man, it’s hard when I don’t love deeply or respect them enough to submit to them It does matter to me, I can’t just submit to anyone.
But a good trusting dominant that I love and respect, knows what boundaries I have and respects them, pushes them from time to time as they build trust with me and it actually helps with the PTSD over a time.
It’s hard for me to top a guy I love and respect though. I prefer not being the dominant partner if am honest with you.
Which leads to another shadow trait I have – intense pride, I feel a lot of pride when I am a submissive to the right guy – I am proud for being what they need me to be at the time, I am proud to help, proud to do things… if those things make me comfortable and they respect my boundaries. Now for those who aren’t involved in the lifestyle, you may feel that a submissive can’t have boundaries – but they do, in fact they are more respected than vanilla/regular relationships in my opinion.
I am so happy within myself when I feel needed or given a task or I have successfully done something for the one I love.
Another thing is, I need a man who likes to take control like that – especially if they have high standards, because I do not thrive without someone like that in my life. I go stagnant, I don’t look after myself properly and I let myself go; Which is strange because I am a proud person and I am very vain by my nature, but again, society has brutalised that out of me… so when I am not in a controlling relationship with a vain guy who has high standards, my vanity flies out of the window too – because I am naturally also quite modest.
Because I was made to be modest, it is unacceptable to be vain in the religious communities I was raised in.
Paul is not a vain person – he doesn’t care what I look like, he is just happy having me around or was until recently. But I know from past experiences, when I have had a guy who does care and does have high standards, I never slack on my beauty regime and trying to look my best, because I don’t want to fail him!
It’s hard to get the motion going without someone like that in my life, because I don’t have the inclination to do it just for myself, because I don’t get the same sense of pride from it.
I am also ashamed to admit I thrive on praise, if I don’t get enough of it, it doesn’t feed my pride so I become like a hungry lioness that starts to rebel because I haven’t been acknowledged enough – yes, I admit I am hard work!
My dream would be to be part of a couple where we motivate each other, we have similar needs but are polar opposites, I am submissive they are dominant, but we both need each other for the praise and challenge to make each other the best that we can be for each other, with true team work.
Though saying that, some of my fetishes seem to put the dominant into a bottom role at times, I love foot fetishists, I love having my feet sensually acknowledged and that can be difficult thing to broach with some dominant men.
I know the shadow aspect is more than just sex, but I am following a pattern of thought here, from one thing to another and it just so happens to be sexually related right now.
To the right dominant I will be completely 100% loyal to and could do almost anything within my limits for, not just in the bedroom, but in life too. I have a strong sense of integrity though, which can put up certain blocks for how much the dominant can harness me.
I will do anything for them, but if it goes against my hard-core beliefs, you’d have a hard time convincing me to do it and that’s where another trait of mine comes into play. I am renowned for being stubborn!
Yes I have stubborn integrity!
If I don’t respect or love someone deeply enough or if my integrity is being challenged, I am so incredibly stubborn and forthright that nothing will stand in my way to maintain my poise and position on the matter and I will respond to it viciously if I must.
I remember an old Lord who met me once, got off on the wrong foot with me with his naughty disrespectful behaviour (non-sexual) and I told him a few home truths and I got the nickname “Sparky” from him!
Another shadow trait I have is self-harming if I believe I have let people I love down or humiliated them in some way – I also self-harm when I feel humiliated or stupid, or if I am too stressed without support. I just go and sit in the corner and scratch myself to pieces with broken glass! Though that happens rarely these days, in fact the last relapse I’ve had with that was about three years ago.
What’s worse is whenever possible I will try not to cry in front of people, so people never really know how upset I have got over things as I tend to hide myself away, though lately that’s getting difficult to do as I am getting more emotional as I am getting older. but a good master or dominant man will know to always double check on me.
Another part of my shadow self goes back to fetishes again, I switch easily from sub to dominant to alpha submissive on sister subs if I am in a polygamous household. I don’t like dominant women and I have a hard time having any woman try to top me, in fact – just don’t even try to go there!
But with other submissive women I have a playful dominant streak which can sometimes be too teasing and borderline cruel; I have to be reined in at times – but it depends on who the other person is; the less I like them the naughtier I get with them. Yes, viciousness is a part of who I am at times – but it rarely rears its ugly head, because generally I just want to be nice and helpful most of the time!
Another thing, I am a huge attention whore – I mean, I don’t just like being acknowledge a bit… I like a lot of hands on attention and I have been known to be called “exhausting” by some previous relationships on both a physical and mental level.
I need a lot of touching, snuggling, feeling, playing – you get me? When I am not getting that I tend to talk people to death, or at least that’s how they make me feel at times.
I often think that I need a dominant man who can handle all that but also socialises a lot, so he can take me out to a party or something and point me in a direction and say “look, friends, go talk to them” and nudge me over to them so he can have a break lol.
Another thing is, I have to be boring at events etc. in that I only drink three glasses of any kind of alcohol, unless they are shot glasses then maximum seven. Because to me, I love alcohol and I think it could be all too easy for me to follow my family down the alcoholism line. Because to me, alcohol is really nice and it’s like soda to me! So I avoid it, because I know myself well enough.
I have had ex alcoholic boyfriends in the past and I have respected them enough to NEVER drink alcohol around them, because I know addiction is hard.
If you hadn’t noticed yet, another shadow aspect of me is sex addiction. Actually, it can be a real problem if I am with a very erm… playful guy?
I am one of these people that gain more energy with it, I am very lusty and have a high libido – same with normal exercise too – if I am lethargic and can’t be motivated to do much due to laziness just make me exercise – if you are in a relationship with me, sex is more fun!
I have been complained at for having such a high drive that an ex felt I used them only for their body… so… lol
Up until recently I was very embarrassed about being super childish and repressed it hugely, but healing my inner child is bringing the childishness out more and more and though, sometimes it can be a bit much for a forty year old woman to act the way I do… I am happier for it!
I can be bratty at times; if I know I can get away with it with people. I am talking Verruca Salt here, but then again I am easier to please than her as I have modest desires really!
All I tend to want are fluffy cushions, snuggles, pets, books, endless art supplies, perfumes and a virile dominant man – what more could I possibly want? … Oh and a big kitchen, a happy family and a good sized garden… nearly forgot those essentials!
I avoid eating candy outside of ovulation because it makes me hyper. I am talking squirrel on caffeine kind of hyper! Give me candy during ovulation should be a part of any man’s survival manual if they are in my life! I turned into a right monster when sugar deprived around then!
Just imagine a 40yr old Verruca Salt shouting “Give me candy now, or I will scream and scream and scream”, you kind of get the message… though I am polite, so I am likely to say please, the rude part comes if anyone dares say no to me at this time.
People give in, because when I scream, it’s reminiscent of Madeline Kahn.
So there you have it – my shadow in all its glory…
I can’t say I feel any better for sharing it – if anything I kind of feel embarrassed about it and might hide for a year or two over it… but never mind.
I may just plod along.
Thanks for reading!
Why did I confess about my supressed vanity and why do I seem so proud of it?
Because, it is a major part of my natural personality that got the hardest beatings and chastisements over the years, to me it feels like it was 50% of my personality and that since my suppressors took a hold on me – to get me out of the mind-set of it, it was like I have lived my whole life a lie.
I lived as my shadow self for too long, though many people feel that vanity is the shadow aspect in itself, maybe my mind is all muddled up – but to me, this is what came naturally to me and it is this what got moulded out of me.
I know a lot of people, my mother included will tell me that vanity is the shadow self, because vanity is a sin.
I don’t see how it’s a sin to make the most of what you have, why shouldn’t you adorn the precious body God gave you however you like? Why should you not worship God through your temple, which is your body and give thanks and honour him for a job well done?
Why is it more holy to hate yourself and live modestly about your looks or abilities, surely revelling in it all is the biggest form of gratitude to the creator?
I remember slaps across my face as a child when I actually used to have the guts to ask these questions to my mother!
“How dare you” she used to say as she’d drag me to the bathroom to wash my mouth with soap, literally!
To wash those dirty words out of my mouth, because I say something that can’t be redeemed, her long nails scratching the back of my throat as she washed my tongue deeply!
I hate Imperial Leather soap to this day!
All the women I admired growing up were the vain glamorous types, I always kind of screwed my nose up at the ordinary woman and lived in amazement at how much some women put the time into their looks above everything else.
I always wanted to be like that too, but I was only like that for two short years in my adult life before I moved in with Paul and about a year when I moved in with Paul – funnily enough the year before I became sick.
Its sods law that I want to get to grips with my true self now and I have long Covid alopecia which is ruining my idea of what great hair is! I have learned these things over the years, your hair is your crowning glory, and the thing that gets you judged the most; second to that are your shoulders, people look at your shoulders and your neck and judge your posture a lot! Thirdly to this is the clothing or accessories you choose to wear and it’s generally make up as the last thing people will notice about you.
Though going back to the clothing, people don’t look up and then down, they look down and go up, they judge you from your footwear. This is my experience in any case.
Your smile is another factor that probably comes before the cosmetic application judgement! Which is why I have a closed mouth smile, I am ashamed of my mouth.
My mouth is the most abused part of my body, my voice suppressed a lot, my mouth has had a lot of abuse – forced feedings, mouth wash outs, slapped across the face a lot, squeezed to keep silent, hand over my mouth, is it any wonder my throat chakra is hard to unblock?
So what is going on here, why is it vanity week?
Well it’s not intentionally vanity week – it’s just I am really working on my inner child in the past two or three weeks and it just so happens to coincide with a few of the self-therapies I am doing.
Waking up the true me, the unblocked me, the real me.
I want to take you all on a journey with me – weight loss and changing my image and I hope it will be fun for all of us!
I am not going to be happy until I can rock a pair of suspenders better than Dr Frank n Furter!
Just don’t think of me in them now huh, don’t want to have nightmares now do we?
For me one of the big things I hate about living here is the inability to get access to someone who can do household maintenance when it needs to be done, instead of having to wait years between projects! Our shower broke down in 2016 and I bought its replacement in 2018 and it still hasn’t been installed! I need my twice daily showers and twice weekly exfoliations!
I miss lathering myself in shea butter for an hour and then showering it off, the stretch marks were reduced a lot and it does a lot to help with cellulite, but you can’t get into a bath to wash it all off, ew!
I think my biggest goal since childhood was to have the confidence as well as the body to rock a velveteen cat suit too! One I’ve dreamt of designing since I was a nine! When I had the figure to wear something like that I didn’t have the guts!
Its really weird how since doing all this inner child stuff, I am seeing a lot of butterflies, dragonflies, caterpillars, flamingos, ibises and peacocks – all representatives of transformation, flamboyance, vibrancy, vanity and confidence.
I have been taking care of my body with a high protein diet, a little exercise per day and face yoga and I am seeing a major difference to my face and figure personally. I am starting to like myself a bit but I am thinking that’s a lot to do with the change in my mentality, thanks to that Mel Robbins technique I shared with you a couple of weeks back!
I am now able to plank for about one minute, which is impressive when you think that I struggled to hold a squat for fifteen seconds at Easter!
Six weeks ago I could only do ten reps of bicep curls without weights before needing a two minute break to continue to the full thirty reps – now I can do fifty reps off the bat without resting, though I am slightly out of breath by then.
My main focuses in toning up are my triceps area, as that is not a very nice part of my body, as well as my abs, because I look five months pregnant if I am being honest right now. The rest of the body seems to be doing itself naturally and appropriately, I don’t know why these two areas in particular are being stubborn!
The aim isn’t to become too muscular, but to tone it up and not be horribly flabby.
At the moment my arms look alien to the rest of my body, which is why I pose with them tightly behind my back, because I look like an ape… well I am an ape, all humans are… but you know what I mean!
So, I just want to be beautiful and feel good for it, I want to be in a position of belief when someone tells me I am beautiful. But I don’t want to be a mean cocky bitch about it like some women are.
I just want to wear what I want, feel great in it and be who I want to be, when I want to be it, instead of cringing and thinking I am making a fool of myself, or that people are going to think that two little boys are fighting up my skirt as I walk down the road!
Thanks for reading!
I was raised like a feral child
Though my playground was a cage
I was kept away from others
I could not with others engage
I could look on and wonder
What it’s like to play
With the other children
I see from my garden each day
But never be a part of their society
Because I was never meant to be free
No one to hug me when I cried
Not when people went and died
I had to do it all alone
Alone and lonely in my home
Without any comfort or kind words
Their only touch was to hurt
Constantly berated for my heart
Don’t be weak we’ll tear you apart
Go back upstairs in your cage
No way to ever assuage the pain
Just you remember, don’t be vain!
You are the devil’s child
Don’t do it again!
I have been thinking about the YouTube channel I am going to set up after Christmas a lot, I have been trying to think about what it should be mostly about. People like themes, they don’t like random people no matter how authentic they are, or do they?
I mean, I like a lot of stuff and I would like to do a lot of stuff – I don’t want to be bored with the same old same old, you know?
I want to sometimes read out my poetry to people, I want to share gardening tips and recipes and my journey through weight loss and other things. I don’t want to just be a gardening vlog, or a beauty and fitness vlog or a writing vlog. I want to do the whole caboodle, now people say, sure you can do this but have multiple channels, but I don’t really want to do that.
If I had multiple channels, then I will need to film and edit every day for a once a week post on each and that is taking up more time than I want to do.
Plus I am none too thrilled about the editing process, I hate doing anything technical for too long.
One of my biggest desires in having a YouTube channel is to visibly show people my weight loss, fitness progresses. But contrary to that there are two things I hate about it… the fame this could give me and the fact I have to show my fat ugly body and face on the camera, or else, what am I showing?
I’m paranoid enough without being famous!
Seriously, you have no idea how paranoid I am when a stranger points and looks like they are talking about me. I mean… I can’t cope now, let alone when I know they know me… you know… at least right now I can put it down to me being a schizoid, of course they aren’t really pointing at me…. Until they then call me fat ass to my face and I am like… ok I guess they were then, rude!
I keep my mouth shut to people who shout that at me, primarily because I want to live. But inside I want to shout out “Like your lip will be if you carry on mate”!
If people knew the attitude that goes on inside my head, I would have been murdered years ago!
I don’t like the idea of going out dressed up in a headscarf and huge sunglasses and learning to turn my head away from anyone as I walk past them like some super international spy!
I just want to dawdle down the street in my scruffs on a lazy day, walking a dog, without it being splashed on the papers “TC bad hair day” or “TC midlife crisis” you know.
But then again, there are days where the attention whore comes out and it’s like “for goodness sake notice me, notice me, stop ignoring me, why am I being ignored when I have just walked down the street looking like a bowl of fruit”?
Thing is, I do like attention if I have to be honest with you. But the problem is, on my terms and the world doesn’t work like that!
Fame scares me because of the stupid lengths some journalists will go to for a good pic and a front page position in their newspaper; it’s disgusting what some people will do to advance themselves.
When I was little I was famous for a few months in North London as being a pageant queen stripped of her rightful prize because of nepotism in the judging panel. I remember someone taking me by the hand to pull me away from my mum so they got a perfect shot of me, The Angel of Burnt Oak!
That scared me, let alone the incidences with a couple of my more famous relatives.
The universe has wanted me to be famous for a long time, but I have always fought it. My grandmother and some of the Romany relatives we have often sat down having fortune telling annuals for the family and from the age of seven they have all been convinced I will be a huge name in the world someday; though they said I will be late in getting that name. I will be in my early forties.
They suggested even back then, that I am destined for greatness, I will find greatness myself, but I will find someone equally great to spend my life with. They warned me I would have a child with a man but then I would leave him to start a second family quite late in life.
Though I would start all this late in life, my legacy would be huge and I would be like Shakespeare or Charles Dickens in how long my fame will last.
Vanity, I know – I know its vanity and I would hold my hands up and say, you think I am bad for this now? You should have seen me when I was thinner and I felt prettier than I do now, then you’d know how vain I really can be!
I even have a playlist called “Vanity” where you will find songs on it such as “keep young and beautiful” by Annie Lennox, “You’re never fully dressed without a smile” by the musical Annie and “beautiful and dirty rich” by Lady Gaga!.
So yes vanity has always been part of what I call “my true” personality, but it has been badly abused and supressed over the years. Make no mistake, I don’t think I am beautiful, but I do know there’s a lot of people who said I am and although I don’t believe them, I take their word for it; as the world isn’t generally nice about that sort of thing, unless it’s true and I know a lot of beautiful people who hate themselves too.
I used to obsess over my looks a lot because I can’t stand it when another woman notices; you forgot to do your eyebrows today, omg you have no lip liner, just lipstick?
I can’t afford to be vain anymore; I don’t have the budget for it. But when I got sick in 2014 I totally let myself go because my illness made me bedbound and for a while we thought I had some type of cancer, but it wasn’t.
I also thought, nobody is interested in me with a child and I am approaching forty, why bother? Especially with my baggage.
But I have been doing a lot of inner child therapies lately and its waking the true me up again – I love it, but I also hate the idea of people seeing my changes and thinking I am trying too hard to impress others or that I am being pretentious, when in fact I am actually becoming my more authentic and very supressed self!
As a child, before my mother started to peel me apart from the age of 7yrs I used to love standing in front of people performing for them, singing, acting, dancing, showing off and being my beautiful self in such cocky little way! This I believe is one of the reasons behind why my grandad called me “cocker” because I was cocky before my mother got her nails into me!
It’s funny but I started to get fat around the time mum started to hate me and supress me, before that, when I had her love and support, I was blooming marvellous and hadn’t a care in the world, I could move mountains with my confidence.
She insisted she needed to hold me down though, or I was going to the devil, she especially freaked out when I got the notion of burlesque – a thing I saw on TV thanks to my grandad and uncle watching it and predicting that will be me when I am older, mark their words!
My grandma said if I turn out like that, I’d definitely be following her mother’s footsteps as she was a cancan dancer and burlesque performer! Imagine that, my great grandma a cancan performer!
As a child my biggest career dream was to be a fashion designer but my mother worked like a woodpecker on my confidence when she found this out and wouldn’t encourage anything that might be connected to fashion and destroyed my sense of self love as much as possible to get this stupid dream out of my head.
Yet, ironically, it was she who’d force me into the pageants until I became embarrassingly fat for her and she told me she was ashamed to be seen in public with me because of it.
So yes, given the right environment, the right sense of self, I am a vain creature and attention whore to boot and my mother did everything possible to knock me off the pedestal I was on, because she felt the way I was going my life would be filled with sin if she didn’t act cruel to be kind.
But I have tried hard not to be vain, narcissistic or to reach too high – because I can’t stand the reactions from people like my mother who are vitriolic and jealous or greedy to try and do something to you to either destroy you or make entertainment out of you.
I have to say it has been a battle that’s been with me my whole life. I want to be this great person that everyone admires and to be beautiful and loved, but I also don’t want the evil that comes with it. You know?
I am on a weight loss journey, so I can be whoever I want to be unashamedly and with a little extra confidence – I will never have oodles of confidence, but I am going to fake it until I make it and I want to be a butterfly or better yet, a peacock!
As I’ve said before, I have had to learn to do everything on an emotional level alone – no support – no friends, nada.
It’s scary to think of what I could be if I am still alone, you know? I need security, I mean emotional security. Yeah sure, physical security, physical assistance is in abundance in the world, but it’s the emotional security that really counts.
I’ve never been taught to cope with grief or have my grief acknowledged by anyone. I was always made to feel bad and selfish when I was sad and grieving a loss.
Told I am a stupid girl who needs to snap out of it, snap out of the idea my grandpa has just died, the same grandpa who I lived with for the last 3 months of his life as he died of cancer right before my eyes!
10yrs old and all I got was a pat on the head from my dad, nothing else from anyone else, when grandpa died, when I was still tearful after three days, people became aggressive with me – get over it you stupid girl stop going on trying to get attention for yourself!
All I wanted was a cuddle, some kind words, but being raised by adults who are all self-absorbed, obviously they don’t think about anyone but themselves. They might have been a close family in that we had a massive family extended for five or even six generations that still maintained contact, but they were not supportive of each other. They were not the kind of family that pulled together to grieve and help each other, they all go off into their own small groups or by themselves and the children usually end up forgotten.
When raised by people like this, is it any wonder then, why I cry when a stranger shows me kindness and goes out of their way to be nice to me and sympathetic?
Because I am genuinely not used to being treated with any kind of humanity!
I was raised like a thing, not a person.
I remember when I was in therapy groups as a teenager, I remember joking with my peers about how I wasn’t raised I was dragged up and spat out, reeled in and clout, clout, clout.
My peers though knowing it to be tragic laughed, the therapists cried and some refused to treat me as my case was so specifically hard, they needed a lot of mental time off from work, as hearing what I went through, broke them.
It happened to a lot of therapists, I often had them in tears when I recalled my normal daily life and they’d have to end sessions early. I tried my best actually to hold back a lot because I needed the therapy, but some of them insisted I didn’t – my mother did.
I remember one therapist in particular was so aggrieved by what I went through, she broke all protocol just to give me a long, long tight hug as she cried and she told me, she so desperately wants to get me away from my parents and adopt me. Then she came to her senses and she couldn’t be in therapy with me alone anymore, she had to have a colleague with her to maintain a professional standard. This woman worked tirelessly to try and have me removed from custody of my parents, but she failed.
I was weirdly happy with quite a bit of my childhood until I realised that my parents weren’t normal, after seeing so many professionals break like that. I really thought it was normal that at 7am you’re kicked out into the garden until lunch time, made to entertain yourself when you’re not at school with only a dog and a rabbit as company or the elderly neighbours talking to you over a fence.
At 12:15pm daddy comes home for lunch, perfectly normal to cook for him and yourself, eat your lunch and get out into the garden by 12:45 again until you’re called in for dinner at 4pm same routine, mums working night shift, you got to cook for everyone – then outside again until 7pm.
I thought it was perfectly normal to only bath once a week and nothing else and that in the summer your bath became the kids paddling pool, but with soap!
Of course it’s not, I know that now, but back then, it’s normal life!
I remember my mum when I was of legal age to drink getting excited that I was of age to become her drinking partner at nightclubs, but I was terrified of going to places like that and refused to go. She was disappointed, but still tried to have drinking nights in with a slap up meal with her mates and tried to make me drink alcohol with her – “here love, drink more of this, you are more human after you’ve got a drink down you, you’re so tight otherwise… go on have another and another”.
She nearly poisoned me one night when I gave in to every temptation. I got so ill I nearly needed the hospital, the hallucinations were really, really bad – she said it was only alcohol, but I never really knew.
Dad was furious.
I still went with mum to her mates, but I started to insist control in my drinks and never trusted anything given to me after that – I wanted to know my orange was just orange and not some exotic new type that mysteriously contained vodka or gin that they didn’t tell me about.
I am not tight; I will drink, but not enough to get drunk.
So yeah, all sorts of things could end up on my vlog, but I won’t make it a sympathise with me vlog. It will all be upbeat or informative, nothing dull, nothing depressing; it will be my happy place.
I was thinking about being 100% authentic on there, no matter how tragic it is. Doing all sorts of things, whether I get laughed at or not, because no doubt I will because I am cheeky – I am self-deprecating and I do stupid things, I am accident prone, I am just not graceful and clueless… it will be hilarious.
I mean the other day, I was putting on something really tight and I struggled and I was hopping around the room like a Chinese vampire, trying to heave these darn pants on and I fell ass over tit on my face!
Don’t be surprised if that happens in the vlogs if I am brave enough to show my face!
Henry forgot his password to his Roblox game review channel he had, where I’d comment from time to time funny little quips now and again, interrupting his shows and he said if it weren’t for me, he wouldn’t have had as many views – because a lot of people loved the mum stuff.
We thought at the time, Henry was a budding “Morgz” because he did a lot of stuff with his mum didn’t he?
Well this post is getting a bit long now, so I think I had better end it here, sorry about that, just so much on my mind tonight.
Thanks for reading!
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